Supergoop! Glow Screen Review

Happy weekend!

Summer maybe looked different this year but one thing that stays the same, regardless of circumstance, time of year, or weather is how important it is to protect our skin! Wearing sunscreen is something I haven’t always been the most consistent with; I would lather up before a beach or pool day but the idea of putting it on every single day seemed so tedious to me.

I recently turned 25, & while I’m not really seeing signs of aging in my skin, I want to start preventing those things NOW. I want to protect my complexion against harmful UV rays so that issues with my skin down the road can hopefully be prevented.

I recently started using Supergoop! & I am SO impressed with their Glow Screen. This post isn’t sponsored or anything, I truly just felt like I needed to shout my praise for this product off of rooftops! It’s SPF 40, & works well as a hydrating primer before makeup. THE. GLOW. You guys, even without any makeup this product makes my skin look like an Instagram filter; it’s the perfect amount of glow for summertime (& let’s be real, all year long)!

I use this by itself as a sunscreen (like here!) & under makeup as a primer. Love it either way!

I’m holding my very first giveaway on my Instagram page, @daniellecdelgado. I love the Glow Screen so much, I want to gift one of my amazing followers with their own to try out & hopefully love just as much. It’s not sponsored, I just want to say thank you for following me. Check out my Instagram for more details!

I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

Talk to you soon,

Danielle

Weighing Less Does Not Mean Being Worth More

I’ve spent my whole life with the goal to try to lose weight. I would research the latest diets, fitness teas, tips & tricks because I wanted results FAST. It didn’t really matter to me if I did it in a healthy way, honestly.

My new health journey is VERY recent. Like literally only about two weeks old. I’m not doing anything drastic or restrictive, & honestly I find weight loss goals to be pretty triggering, so I’m not doing that either. I’m simply eating healthier (more vegetables, home-cooked meals, minimizing junk food), drinking more water, & moving my body. No rules, no fads, no counting, just doing what feels good. & THAT feels good!

I’ve done a lot of self reflection in the past year; just trying to separate myself from that unhealthy dieting culture, restrictive eating, etc. The goal was always weight loss: how much weight could I lose? How quickly could I go down sizes? I realized recently that I used to believe that weighing less would cause myself to love myself more; that somehow weighing less would add to my value as a person. That’s incredibly inaccurate. I know that now, & hope you do, too.

I’m focusing on my health for the first time, not my weight.

For the first time in my life, the goal is not to lose weight but instead to just be healthier. If weight loss comes with that, then I’ll love my body as it changes that way too. But I’m trying my best to not let that be the focus of why I’m doing this. I just want to be healthier & feel good.

I’ll keep you updated on this little health journey of mine! Don’t let diet culture & comparison rule your life; change your mindset into a healthier one first. It’s hard, but worth it.

Danielle

My Thought Process When a Stranger Asks if I’m Pregnant (Again.)

Disclaimer: I write about my struggles with loving my body in this post. If disordered eating, weight loss, or anything like that is triggering to you, skip this post. It’s never my intention to cause harm or re-traumatize. This is just my personal experience.

Hi there,

I like to start & end my posts on a lighter note, so here’s a dress I’ve been getting a lot of questions about! I have my first-ever affiliate link HERE. If you purchase using this link I’ll earn a small amount of commission at no extra cost to you. I’m obsessed with the tie-sleeve detail & the smocking makes it so that you don’t have to wear a bra if you don’t want to! I’m wearing an XL, which I feel like honestly could work if you’re bigger or smaller than me because of the smocked top. There are only a few sizes left on Prime in this color, but there’s also a pretty yellow!

This has quickly become my favorite summer dress!

A stranger asked me if I was pregnant, again. It’s happened a few times now & it sucks. It hurts. It’s hard. It’s hard to try to have confidence in my body when it happens. I’m not proud of my initial reactions but I wanted to list them here:

  • I shouldn’t eat dinner tonight.
  • I need to do 100 crunches when I get home.
  • My stomach has gotten so big, I’m disgusting.
  • I shouldn’t be wearing this tight tank top.
  • I need to lose 50 lbs, ASAP.

I’m human. I’m not going to have wonderful, confident days every single day of my life. I’m also not going to be able to let every comment roll right off my back. Here is what I would have said if a friend said any of those things on that list to me, & what I would want to replace those initial thoughts with:

  • You’re a beautiful person with a caring heart.
  • Your body lets you run around with your cute puppy.
  • Work out if it makes you feel good, but don’t use it to punish your body.

Even just writing this, I’m starting to feel uplifted & appreciative of my body. (I’ll be completely honest: we just got back from the tennis court where a woman asked me that question. My immediate response was to curl up in bed, cry, & snuggle with Phoebe. Not great, but working on it!) It’s just another example of how body confidence is an every day journey. One minute you’re soaking in the sun, playing fetch with your pup. The next minute, you’re considering skipping meals & holed up in your dark bedroom. People can be the worst sometimes. I know that far too many women experience this though; from reading stories online & also having friends reach out to me with their own stories of this. It doesn’t seem to matter what body type you have: people somehow justify asking invasive questions about your body regardless. If you’ve considered asking someone if they’re expecting, please stop & think of the ways that could be harmful; maybe they’re having infertility issues, are going through a big life change, or maybe they’re trying to love themselves better. No matter what, they don’t owe anyone an explanation.

I don’t have some sort of cure-all answer to make myself feel better, or to help if this has happened to you. I think all we can do is practice using our coping skills (or developing healthier ones!) & leaning on our support systems.

It’s easier said than done to overcome negative feelings. BUT I have so much to be thankful for, including a boyfriend who always makes me laugh while taking pictures of me!

We’re all on this journey to love ourselves the best we can. We only get one of these bodies, after all. Thanks for reading lengthy post (& letting me vent! Definitely needed this). Apparently I had a lot of thoughts that needed to get out, haha. Oh & make sure you tag me in pictures of you if you buy this dress! I hope you love it as much as I do.

Sending love,

Danielle

Embracing My Natural Hair

Hey there!

Here I am! Natural waves, no makeup, & best of all feeling confident & happy!

Something I’ve been trying out lately is embracing my natural hair texture. I have naturally really thick, what I thought was wavy hair (it might be curly? TBD.) with a TON of frizz. My mom used to spend so much time wrangling my hair into tight braids & cute updos, but by the time it was up to me to style it, I felt frustrated. I felt envious of the girls’ whose houses I would sleep over; they’d wash their hair & it would air dry silky & smooth. I could only get my hair to look like that after hours of heat styling!

But that’s the type of hair I thought was “pretty”. So I heat styled my hair for years & years, trying to wrestle my frizz into submission.

I never felt put together or pretty or confident with my natural hair, until John & I went on a cruise right after Christmas. I brought my straightener, but didn’t use it once. The ocean water brought out my natural waves, & I threw some oil in it to help control the frizz. I felt sun-kissed, confident & beautiful; I couldn’t be bothered locking myself in the bathroom to style my hair for hours. I’d rather lay in the sun with a margarita in my hand!

Since then, I’ve been trying to embrace my natural hair more. Quarantine has been a good time to try out new products & see what works for me & what doesn’t. I’m seeing my waves/curls become more & more defined! I’m living for my natural volume that I once hated, & I’m excited to see where this little hair journey of mine takes me!

Something that I wanted in my curly hair routine was simplicity; I don’t want to sit & finger curl each strand of hair or apply ten products. I watched videos & got product recommendations from friends, tried those out, & narrowed it down to what seems to work for me. I have a feeling this routine will change a bunch, but this is what I’m doing currently!

1. I wash my hair; I LOVE trying out shampoos & conditioners, but here is what I’m using currently. This shampoo bar from Target soothes my dry scalp; I alternate that with this shampoo & use this conditioner. Let me know if you have any shampoo/conditioner recommendations you love! (I’ve heard that sulfate & silicone free is best for curls?)

2. While my hair is still wet, I use this leave-in conditioner, along with this curl activator, this curl cream, & this gel. I know I said I didn’t want to use ten products, but 4 isn’t terrible, right??

3. I “plop” my hair using a T-shirt, & keep it up in this for 10-30 minutes while I do my makeup.

4. After makeup, I use my diffuser to dry my hair. I do this really sloppily & without much technique or patience.

5. Once my hair is dry (or mostly dry), I put a hair oil throughout my hair, like this one!

Most of these products are super affordable & better yet, effective! I’ll keep you updated if I find any more that I like!

Edit: to refresh my curls, I’ve been wearing my hair in a loose ponytail at night & then spraying it with a misting spray bottle in the morning. After that, I spray this leave-in conditioner & scrunch my hair a bit.

Danielle

P.S. I wanted to give an old coworker of mine, Josie, a shout out for a bunch of these product recommendations! I’ll link her hair routine video here; she’s STUNNING, so sweet, & really knows her stuff with how to make curls look good!

Confidence in the Summertime

Ahh summertime.. the sunshine, the poolside drinks, & too often, the insecurities. Keep reading for some tips on how I embrace my body & aim to be my most confident self!

Summer might look a little different this year but I think a lot of people might agree that it’s usually the time when most of our insecurities really come out. I know in my case, I’ve let my struggles with body image really hinder my summer fun in the past. I remember beach days in high school when I’d cry & pinch my stomach fat. There were trips & events (even recently!) that I’d be so excited for, only to break down in tears the night before while packing because I felt terrible in all of my clothes. It’s something I’ve worked on; I’ve been open about how I still struggle with my confidence at times (that terrible voice in my head can get louder when I’m in a swim suit especially!) but I’d like to think that I’m the most confident I’ve ever been (most days, at least). Here are a few things I like to do to give myself my best chance at feeling confident, especially during summer activities!

1. I’m a firm believer that confidence comes from within, but if I’m hanging out by the pool or going to the beach, I want to wear a bathing suit that highlights my favorite parts of my body & makes me feel good. This black ruffled suit by Summersalt is so cute but also still fun with the lower cut & cheeky booty. Love it!

2. Before going out, & this seems pretty corny so stay with me here, I like to find some things in the mirror that I like about my body. The more time you spend complimenting yourself & focusing on even one good thing that you like, the more likely you are to actually start to believe it.

3. I spend time with people who make me feel valued! If you’re with friends & family who lift you up, there isn’t as much time for you to focus on your flaws. Try to see yourself from their perspective; I doubt they’re worried about how your stomach looks in your bikini, & if they are, they’re not the people you should be spending your time with. Try to relax & enjoy yourself.

That voice in your head, pointing out your “flaws”? Tell it to go take a hike. You’re beautiful, worthy, & deserving of having fun. If you’re interested in more self-love & body confidence content, check out the podcast I’m co-hosting with my sister! Our second episode is out & we talk about size inclusivity. I’ll link it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-talk/id1515342984?i=1000478947623

Cheers! (I’m drinking a piña colada while writing this, I hope you have one too!)

Danielle

I’m Co-Hosting a Podcast!

This is Samantha! She’s my big sis/best friend/biggest inspiration/partner in crime.

Hi there!

I’m going to start out a little bit sappy today, but only because I miss my sister like CRAZY. Samantha is my absolute best friend; we lean on each other during the tough times & are first in line to celebrate each other during the happy times. Like so many of you I’m sure, I haven’t seen my sister since Christmas which is probably the longest we’ve EVER been apart. We’ve resorted to watching movies & drinking wine over FaceTime (still a pretty fun time, so I can’t complain too much!) but I can’t wait to be able to hug her & hang in person! Something that she & I have always talked about & supported each other through is our journeys toward body positivity; we’ve talked for hours & hours about our bodies, our goals, & our experiences, but in the last few years our conversations regarding our body image has become much more positive & about navigating this new healthier mindset.

We’ve been each other’s biggest fans since day 1!

We think everyone should have a sister to support them through their self love journey which is why… we started a podcast!

Our podcast, Can You Talk?, is all about self love & body confidence. Samantha & I each have our own stories to share & we also learn so much from each other. We have different body types & experiences but share a common goal of wanting to love ourselves better.

One of my favorite memories! It was our first night in Madrid & we danced flamenco on stage! (After delicious food & wine, obv.)

Some of my favorite conversations with readers since I’ve started this blog has been conversations about body image; I think this podcast will definitely be something that my readers can relate to & will hopefully enjoy listening to!

Our first episode is out now & available to listen to on Spotify, Google, & Apple podcasts. We hope you’ll listen & let us know what you think!

If you’re missing family members you can’t be with right now, I feel you & I’m with you. We’ll get through this!

Can’t wait to be able to hang out in person again BUT we are having so much fun co-hosting this podcast!

Danielle

Black-Owned Businesses To Shop, Support, & Be Inspired By

I know many content creators, myself included, have taken this past week off to educate themselves & amplify Black voices. That work does not stop simply because the week is over; we must continue to reflect on our personal biases, educate ourselves as much as possible, & amplify Black voices in every way that we can. We cannot just take a week off & then go back to our usual programming.

I don’t want to center myself at all, so I’ll just leave it at the fact that I’m uncomfortable that it’s taken me so long to be more intentional about the brands I support, the creators I follow on social media, & the businesses I’m promoting on this blog. I’m sitting in that discomfort, as we all should; I will do better moving forward, as I continue to learn & advocate more.

Here are some businesses owned by women in the Black community that I’ve purchased products from this past week! I ordered a few things that I’m really excited for & I can’t wait to support these brands in the long run.

Juvia’s Place: I’ve heard really great things about this makeup brand (especially their eyeshadow palettes!) so I’m looking forward to playing with this palette and gel eyeliner set. Update: this palette is STUNNING & the eyeliner stays all day long (through the FL summer heat; I’m so impressed!)

The Tiny Tassel: I’ve been loving a bold earring, & these in the blush ombré will be so fun with summer outfits.

The Juno Studio (on Etsy!): Again, love a good bold earring. I can’t wait to style the mustard yellow ones!

The Baked Clay Studio: I honestly didn’t realize how many new earrings I had ordered until making this post! These are so colorful & fun; I love how unique they are. (The shop will be restocked on 6/11!) Update: I ordered another pair from Kristin because these are just that good!

I’m obsessed with these! The colors are beautiful & make me so happy!

Mary Louise Cosmetics: I bought the Miracle Serum to try, & if the reviews & before/after photos on Instagram are any indication I think I’ll love it! Update: This product is AMAZING. I will repurchase for the rest of my life, I’m not kidding!

Loving Culture: Something I’ve always struggled with is a dry, flaky scalp; I’m hoping this hair oil might do the trick! Update: This oil is super soothing on my scalp and has taken the flakes away! DS

I can’t wait to update you on these products once I receive them & try them out! Behind these brands are inspiring, beautiful Black women who deserve all of the support & success. I hope you’ll check out their businesses! Moving forward on this blog, I will continue to share & explore my love of fashion, beauty & self care but I will be intentional in highlighting Black-owned businesses.

Sending you light!

Danielle

Current Favorite Outfits

Well, it’s happened. Most of my jeans are feeling snug. I can still get them buttoned, but I’m definitely not comfortable wearing them all day long, especially sitting down. If this had happened to me even a year ago, it would have triggered a downward spiral of hateful thoughts & attempting the latest fad diet. It would have caused me to spend time in front of the mirror, pinching my stomach & thighs, wishing them away. It would have made me go to the gym, but for all the wrong reasons.

I choose to be gentle with myself. I choose patience & understanding. I choose acceptance & dare I say, love. I choose to focus on my accomplishments, the things I’m thankful for, & the things my body allows me to do. I want to keep taking care of myself, body & soul.

Am I drinking enough water? Am I moving my body & eating food that fuels it? Am I doing things that makes me smile? If I can answer yes to those questions on most days, that’s enough for me right now. There are days in this quarantine that maybe the answer is no, but all I can do is accept it and try again tomorrow.

If you’re feeling down about your body today, what’s a step you can take to lift yourself up? Today for me, it was as simple as trying on a few of my favorite outfits. These outfits make me feel confident & help me to embrace my body!

This jumpsuit is so cozy, I haven’t wanted to take it off! I’ve been styling it with white sneakers & a denim jacket.
I LOVE kimonos, especially with a pretty floral pattern like this one! This exact one is sold out right now but here is a similar one.
I’ve been on the hunt for a tank similar to this one! I love it paired with my denim shorts, there are old from Madewell.
Loft has been having such great sales lately! I snagged this short sleeved cardigan for $8 the other day. Keep an eye out for their sales!
I’ve had this dress (that I obviously did not iron lol) in the teal color for awhile & HAD to get another color. I wear this all the time & love the green color for summer!
This dress is one of my favorite Amazon finds, ever! I love the sleeves & the tie is so flattering.

It’s not easy, but we can learn to accept & love our bodies at any size, shape, or stage of our lives. If you’re struggling, I’m sending you a big hug!

Talk to you soon,

Danielle

Insecurities are a Funny Thing…

What I honestly focused on immediately in this photo: how big my arm looks, my double chin.
What I choose to focus on instead: Being in Spain with the love of my life, the pure joy on my face, the laughs I shared with John & my cousin on this day, the Tinto de Verano I drank in the sunshine.

We are our own harshest critics, especially when it comes to our bodies. So often we zero in on one small thing that we perceive as a flaw; it’s all we see. That one little “flaw” can hold so much power. It has the power to hold us back from doing things we love. It has the power to turn a happy memory into a picture we hate of ourselves.

Before I started this blog, I hated looking at pictures of myself. I would stare at how big my arms looked, or compare my waist size to whoever else was in the photo. I would suck in my stomach and contort my body to find the most “flattering” angle. All of that effort, & I would still hate looking at the photo afterwards. I made it a New Year’s resolution to focus on how happy I look in photos instead of how my body looks. I knew that if I wanted to start a blog, I would have to get over my aversion to photos & embrace my imperfections.

Do I still hate photos of myself sometimes? Absolutely. I’m only human, & it’ll take a while to undo some of the more toxic thoughts I’ve had about my body for my whole life. If you’re in the same boat, I hope that you can look past whatever perceived flaws you’re focusing on. Instead, look at that smile! Are you surrounded by loved ones in the photo who are making you laugh? Look at your body! Is it letting you hug someone you love or dance with them? Look at the whole picture. I promise you that no one else is looking at your arms. Don’t let that one tiny thing hold so much power over you. Don’t let it hold you back from living your best life!

Those “flaws” make you YOU. There is so much beauty in that.

Danielle

25 Things I’ve Learned in 25 Years

Hi there!

Today is my 25th birthday! My day looks so different than what I thought it would, but I’m making the most of it & it’s been a great day so far. I have SO much to be thankful for & have been feeling a little emotional today; my family & friends have gone completely above & beyond to make me feel so special & loved! My birthday is always a time of reflection for me. I like to think back on the previous year: my growth, my experiences, the people who have impacted me. Then I like to plan ahead for this new year & what I want to accomplish. Here are 25 lessons that I’ve learned during my 25 years of life so far!

1. You can’t control others’ actions, but you do have control over your own reaction.

2. True friends will make you feel inspired & uplifted after spending time with them, not emotionally drained.

3. Self growth can feel so uncomfortable, even painful at times, but is necessary!

4. No one can read your mind-either express how you are feeling or be okay with things not changing.

5. It’s 100% fine to set boundaries to protect your mental health!

6. Sometimes the cheapest option isn’t the best deal (this goes for everything but especially hair salons!!)

7. It’s okay to be alone with your thoughts.

8. Comparison really is the thief of joy.

9. Empathy is a superpower!

10. Forgive yourself for past mistakes & do better now.

11. It’s better to have a handful of close, true friends than it is to have a hundred acquaintances.

12. Difficult, sad times make you appreciate the joyful times even more.

13. Being sensitive does not mean you’re weak!

14. If you have a gut feeling about something, trust it.

15. There’s nothing better than laughing so hard you cry.

16. Hang up your clothes after you take them down damn it! (Still working on this one, tbh.)

17. Take time for yourself & do things that feed your soul.

18. People prioritize things that are important to them.

19. Always, always TRY to choose grace. In every situation.

20. Take the extra time to plan beforehand so you can be more organized & less anxious.

21. A flowy dress does wonders for your confidence!

22. You only get one body, so learn to love & appreciate it during every stage of life!

23. Life is too short to hold grudges. Again, choose grace.

24. Be intentional with your time; life is short!

25. Tell people you love that you love them, as often as you can!

I hope that 25 is a year of making happy memories with people I love, some emotional growing pains as I continue to self reflect & evolve, & so, so much love. If today is any indication, I’m off to a good start! Thank you to my family & friends for making me feel such an abundance of love today & every day. I couldn’t be happier to spend my day with my little family of John, Luke, & Phoebe. Here’s to 25!

Danielle