I mentioned in my last blog post that I definitely have days that I still don’t love my body or feel the most confident. Yesterday was one of those days! A coworker asked if I was pregnant, because “all of the kids in class were asking”. I told her that no, I wasn’t, & may or may not have cried in my car on my way home. I’ve had kids ask me that before, but it can easily be brushed off when a child asks; this time stung more because it was an adult, & it really hurt if I’m being honest.
If you’ve ever had someone make a comment that made you feel bad about your body, I’m sorry. I thought it might be helpful (for both of us!) to share some ideas for bouncing back after your confidence takes a hit.
Self Care: Just like you would take care of your best friend if someone hurt her feelings, you need a little extra TLC. I’m a big fan of a good ol’ face mask & glass of wine!
Reach out to your support system: I’m the luckiest girl in the world to have the sister & friends that I do. I texted my sis & best friend in the car before I left work, & they both had such kind words that comforted me when I got home. If you can’t think of encouragement for yourself in the moment, the people closest to you will be able to. Let them!
Set yourself up for a confident day: Today, I made sure that I wore an outfit that makes me feel confident; one that I’ve gotten compliments on, that is comfortable & feminine. I woke up a few minutes earlier so that I could do my hair & makeup, to feel like my most put together & polished self. Even if you’re not feeling your most confident, fake it ’til you make it! A swipe of your favorite lipstick can do wonders.
I left work feeling so blah yesterday. My immediate reaction, honestly, was to go to the gym & punish my body for failing me in this way. A workout should be a celebration of what our bodies can do, & never a punishment. I made the decision to write about the experience instead, which helped me process my feelings & handle it in a healthier way.
I hope you’re feeling confident today- you are beautiful, strong, & powerful.
Have a great week,